I come to you with a worrying and concerning issue. cyber bullying as a form of Domestic Abuse. Now both men and women, (as it can go either way) however this is more prevalent with men, are using social media as a way to scare and frighten their partners into doing their bidding. They are informing their partners of potentially sharing sensitive and intimate information about them or the relationship if they so much as stand up for themselves. This the abuser hopes, will enable them to get their way somehow. With the victim fearful of their families, friends, churches and work places finding out personal and intimate details. With the abuser willing to share their names and photos along with these posts, therefore anyone who searches for their names on social media, the posts will come up. This can cause their employers to obtain this information also. It is a form of extreme bullying and harassment. The abuser must realise that this can cause some detrimental effects on a victim. There is a rise in suicide attempts as a result of cyber bullying. It is a form of bullying the victim is expected to just “shake off”. Outside agencies inform the victim to close their accounts, block the bully off their phones, however the damage has already been done. The hurtful words, harassment and threats have already been ingrained and cannot be forgotten. One example of this an abuser was constantly making fun of a victim’s christian faith as part of emotional abuse. Personal and intimate posts were placed on social media so people from their church could see as the victim feared they would have been ostracized by their church if intimate details was revealed. Lo and behold, many people who knew them from their church saw and was ostracized. In addition, some of the victim’s friends pulling themselves away not wanting to be “associated” with the victim.
It is up to us as a society to come together and report these people, to not share these posts or to respond to these posts. If we do, we are part of the bullying ourselves and should also be reprimanded. Why are we so frightened as a society to do something about this? to speak up about this?. This is an extreme form of abuse which is the hardest to detect. It is even difficult at first for the victim themselves to realise that it is a form of domestic abuse. The jail term for cyber bullying as a form of domestic abuse should be hard and set in stone to show the abuser that there is a zero tolerance on this. I am saddened to even see that other women are supporting this form of bullying themselves supporting the abuser by responding to their posts and also using derogatory words to describe the victim. Victims can only fight back by showing the abuser there is no fear and continue to stand up for themselves. The Victim should know that there are people and organisations out there to support. They will not be looked down on and judged by these organisations and not all churches would ostracize someone for being a victim. So let us pull together as a society, as one people, one body. We can do this, LETS BEAT THE BULLY.
NB: cyber bully and abuser was purposely placed only in lower caps in the tittle as I felt their recognition with capital letters was not needed in this case.