The Curvy Revolution!

Curvy Women this one is for us!!

Fiona's Motivations

Finally it is here the time when we can all embrace our curves without worry of judgement or disapproval. Society are becoming more and more educated on all things curvy whether its down to clothes, diet and social life. The notion that all curvy women stuff their faces with food 24 hours a day is now fast becoming a thing of the past. We still have a way to go especially with fashion shops charging curvy women extra money for clothes however we are making progress.

The start to being comfortable as a curvy woman is accepting yourself and not relying on anyone for their seal of approval. The confidence and self esteem which should exude you will surely be contagious and give others that instant show that you have no concern of their opinions and what they think if you at all. People who make hurtful comments to other…

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The Curvy Revolution!

Finally it is here the time when we can all embrace our curves without worry of judgement or disapproval. Society are becoming more and more educated on all things curvy whether its down to clothes, diet and social life. The notion that all curvy women stuff their faces with food 24 hours a day is now fast becoming a thing of the past. We still have a way to go especially with fashion shops charging curvy women extra money for clothes however we are making progress.

The start to being comfortable as a curvy woman is accepting yourself and not relying on anyone for their seal of approval. The confidence and self esteem which should exude you will surely be contagious and give others that instant show that you have no concern of their opinions and what they think if you at all. People who make hurtful comments to other curvy women somehow smell the fear and lack of confidence from these women and feel they have found some kind of easy prey. The curvy and plus size women I know are sexy, strong, eat very healthy, sporty and career minded beautiful women.  The clothes which are out there now are sexy and classy and we curvy women can finally feel like we have some kind of choice when it comes to finding clothes and we actually now enjoy shopping. Gone are the days of women hiding behind their computers and shopping online. Curvy women and plus sized women should not worry about dating and finding someone. Once you are confident and have self esteem that will be enough to attract the right man for you as all men are attracted to confident women.

So ladies please join me in celebration of the Curvy Revolution!!! here we come!!download (27)

Women In Ministry: To be Celebrated Men not Feared!!

Women these days are making their presence felt in the world of Ministry and are pursuing their calling of becoming Ministers, Pastors, Evangelists and Reverends. However what we women are faced with now in Ministry is the fact that Men are rejecting women in Ministry as prospective wives! You might be reading this and thinking surely it cannot be true, however it is. When women studying in Ministry are potentially meeting, dating or courting (however you want to call it) (as we are human beings too) reveal that we are studying in Ministry men immediately do the following:

  1. Do not call back
  2. Put us in the “Friend” zone
  3. Think that we will try and “change” their lives
  4. “Think we are going to be so so boring”
  5. That they will get judged by us if they “do something wrong”
  6. Think that their Friends will laugh at them if they know they are dating someone studying in Ministry
  7. Use as counsellors rather than potential wives
  8. Think we might have a secret super power and might know what “they get up to” by looking at them so they do not want to date us

Men please,  women in ministry also posses the same qualities as other women who are not in ministry we are also strong, independent, know what we want, know how to be a wife (as that is an integral part of our study) know how to build a family unit together and so much more qualities. We are not here to judge you or change your life. Our journey with Jesus is our journey not yours. Yes you could have the same relationship with Jesus if you want, however it is not our place to force you to do so it is your choice. We deserve to be wives too we are not here just to be “friends” or “counsellors”. We would like to also have a normal happy marriage built on love and support also. It is amazing men to have a woman who is chosen, called or anointed. You should celebrate her, support her and be proud of her. It is not something to be ashamed of but celebrated. You should feel lucky men that you have met someone as special as this and grab on to it with both hands and not reject it. I remember these words “I am sorry I think you have a higher calling and I am a distraction I cannot be with you”

The day those words were told to me was the best day of my life as the door which was closed was closed for a new door to be opened. My response was “that is OK there is no contest with Jesus, he wins every time because he saved me” Men stop being so judgmental and if you do stumble across a woman studying in Ministry or already ordained into ministry embrace her as the life you will experience with her will be one you will surely enjoy and trust me, will not be boring.

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Diving headfirst into the Dating Waters

This is a topic that most women will not be open and honest about. When we come out of a relationship and we are now faced with the prospect of dating, we are really and truly frightened! We become confused at what dating is all about, as especially being engulfed in the protective arms of a long term  relationship, we are now realising that now we are out of it things have “really changed out there”. We are no longer aware of what men want and what to actually say or do when dating them.

As of course the same as us, men have also what they are looking for from a relationship and partner, and we go through the whole “kissing frogs”stage again. In a previous blog I mentioned a little about the dating game being saturated with “Netflix and chill” and talk of sex on the first phone call! Is it me? Or does any one else find this boring and tedious? I spoke to a business colleague of mine recently who said that even men go through just as a tough time as women do dating, and there have been some dating disasters he has faced also. With married women wanting a “bit on the side” and nothing serious. This shocked me to the core. People from both sexes are finding it tougher and tougher. However back to women, we are completey lost with the dating game. Some women may act like we got it down to a “T” but we do not.

Guys for example have no patience with me when it comes to dating. I am an extremely awkward and shy dater. Not shy with my friends however, but very during dating. I get quiet and withdrawn preferring to speak about other things happening in the news glazing over slightly when a man mentions his satisfactions089639c2f094c545a1fdea7d744833f5 again! I never know how to dress on a date, how to do my hair, so the last date I went on (which was like the 3rd time i have seen this indivdual) i went with no make up and did my hair simple. My dress was a simple slip top and a pair of jeans after piling outfits high on my bed. I was not sure whether to bring something with me as I dislike going to someone’s  place for the first time empty handed as I find that rude. On the other hand, in the game of dating women think if we bring something it might mean we are seen desperate then if we don’t we are cheap skates. Aaarrrrggghhhh! It Is tough out here in these waters. So women be honest: we have no idea what to wear on dates, how to act, what to say, we worry if we are boring or too excitable. It’s  hard especially while we are doing it we are trying to meticulously read the mind  of our date wondering “am I getting this right?”

So what do we do ladies? ” be your self” my dad always told me there is someone out there for everyone. No matter what colour, religious belief, sexual orientation, and hobby preference. So my father always said be yourself till the right one comes along! Cause there is someone out there for you. So till then I will continue to be the slightly awkward and shy dater with a dry sense of humour who will surely find a man to accept me will be able to draw that exitement and passion out of me and show me a insight into his world. However till then, I will enjoy testing the waters until I take the full plunge!

 

NHS Staff: A medal please

I had the misfortune a couple of days ago to go to the hospital as my son broke his arm while playing and running! When i arrived at the hospital where I booked in, it was extremely busy in the waiting area with people with all kinds of ailments booking in. it was about after four in the afternoon and I was surprised at how busy it was then. Anyway I was then directed to the children’s ward where there were less people in the previous waiting area.

The nurse who was so lovely saw to him and assessed him, however as it was becoming increasingly busy had to just assess my sons arm near their desk. We went for an xray and by the time I returned the waiting room was heaving with parents moaning at the staff and screaming children who were very sick and agitated. The NHS staff were calm, patient and maintained a happy approachable manner with the children. They were pushed to the actual brim as it took a further two hours for an A and E assistant to come and put a plaster on my sons arm. He was so lovely and warm after I am sure a very stressful, tiring and eventful A&E.

I almost said to the doctors sit down I will do it and realise I was not a trained medical doctor( in my head) but I was amazed at how pushed to the brim these staff members are. There are people who come in intoxicated and are abusive to staff and they deal with it so professionally. The NHS staff should be commended, applauded and appreciated more. What self less and vocational individuals who do this for a fraction of the money they are worth. They save lives. Society has got it ever so wrong that TV personalities and footballers are paid so much more than these staff when NHS staff are the ones really making an difference on the front line. Even more amazing we do not have to pay for our treatment but do so gradually in our taxes.

So if you are in hospital for an appointment or waiting in A&E, then spare a thought for the staff. Take some doughnuts or fruit in for them so they can grab a snack while trying to get through the night as some of them do not get breaks. Send a card saying Thank You as without them we would surely be lost.Nurse revalidation video capture

The One? is there such a thing?

It is with great sadness for me to say that women have lost their hope in meeting the one for them. However, is there such a thing? with the rising trend of “Netflix and Chill” where men not wanting to spend their money wooing a woman, just wants to get down to the “nitty gritty” and get straight to bed. There is no longer talking, going for long walks, dinner and fun days out. There is only on the first time meeting a man he wants to just “chill” with you at his house or better yet yours! We are in a different time and era also where men have no problem with also saying that sex is all they want. There is no sugar coating it anymore, so if women do go there these men could turn around and say “I never asked you to” and then cannot be held accountable for the hurt they cause. Men do not realise that sex is of no interest at all to us women especially when we have children, career driven and know what we want in life. We would like meaningful relationships, someone to support our achievements and dreams, someone to motivate our children and set a good example to them.

It is also not safe in this day and age to go to someones house the same day you have met to chill. It is down right dangerous. Going for a coffee or even meeting up in a neutral place like a shopping centre is the best option when starting to know someone. We women should have greater desires from life rather than the promise of sex, and have the promise of a healthy relationship with someone who would like to build with you. So would I “Netflix and Chill” on the first few dates? No thank you. So keep hopeful ladies there is someone out there who will love you for you and want to support you your achievements hopes and dreams and someone in time when he becomes your stable partner you can then “Netflix and Chill” with. netflix-and-chill-1024x685

Moments of Men

This week when I decided to run an event for men in which men can come and speak and have a voice, I was met with resounding disapproving noooooooooooos from women. Women had no idea what so ever why men would need an event or a space for them to come and have an open forum to discuss issues without getting judged or attacked for saying the wrong thing.  Women, men have to also be inspired and empowered. Look at our broken society look at the our young boys who are fighting for a better life. Our men can be role models to these young boys so they have some one who understands them to speak to. We can communicate that to men and tell them some of the ways they can help our youth and the difference they can make. Men have to feel that they are not just there to be the providers and aid in the production of children. They have feelings, love and hurt just as we do. Come on ladies give them a chance!20180301_151541