This is a topic that most women will not be open and honest about. When we come out of a relationship and we are now faced with the prospect of dating, we are really and truly frightened! We become confused at what dating is all about, as especially being engulfed in the protective arms of a long term relationship, we are now realising that now we are out of it things have “really changed out there”. We are no longer aware of what men want and what to actually say or do when dating them.
As of course the same as us, men have also what they are looking for from a relationship and partner, and we go through the whole “kissing frogs”stage again. In a previous blog I mentioned a little about the dating game being saturated with “Netflix and chill” and talk of sex on the first phone call! Is it me? Or does any one else find this boring and tedious? I spoke to a business colleague of mine recently who said that even men go through just as a tough time as women do dating, and there have been some dating disasters he has faced also. With married women wanting a “bit on the side” and nothing serious. This shocked me to the core. People from both sexes are finding it tougher and tougher. However back to women, we are completey lost with the dating game. Some women may act like we got it down to a “T” but we do not.
Guys for example have no patience with me when it comes to dating. I am an extremely awkward and shy dater. Not shy with my friends however, but very during dating. I get quiet and withdrawn preferring to speak about other things happening in the news glazing over slightly when a man mentions his satisfactions again! I never know how to dress on a date, how to do my hair, so the last date I went on (which was like the 3rd time i have seen this indivdual) i went with no make up and did my hair simple. My dress was a simple slip top and a pair of jeans after piling outfits high on my bed. I was not sure whether to bring something with me as I dislike going to someone’s place for the first time empty handed as I find that rude. On the other hand, in the game of dating women think if we bring something it might mean we are seen desperate then if we don’t we are cheap skates. Aaarrrrggghhhh! It Is tough out here in these waters. So women be honest: we have no idea what to wear on dates, how to act, what to say, we worry if we are boring or too excitable. It’s hard especially while we are doing it we are trying to meticulously read the mind of our date wondering “am I getting this right?”
So what do we do ladies? ” be your self” my dad always told me there is someone out there for everyone. No matter what colour, religious belief, sexual orientation, and hobby preference. So my father always said be yourself till the right one comes along! Cause there is someone out there for you. So till then I will continue to be the slightly awkward and shy dater with a dry sense of humour who will surely find a man to accept me will be able to draw that exitement and passion out of me and show me a insight into his world. However till then, I will enjoy testing the waters until I take the full plunge!